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outer alliance recommends workshops for glbtiq writers

Jan 18 2012 Published by under life, workshops

Just read this post (and added my two cents, too) on the Outer Alliance, about workshops and writing teachers who are friendly to and supportive of GLBTIQ writers and writing. (They use the term QUILTBAG, which I love, and which may be gaining enough traction that I can actually start using.)

If you’re different from many of your peers, it can feel even more risky to bring your creative work to a critique group or writing class. You may find yourself trying to parse the comments and advice from the instructor or the other students, wondering whether they are being too harsh because they don’t understand your work, or glossing over problems in the writing because they don’t want to engage with the material.

It takes sensitivity, skill and grace to embrace those differences and help create a supportive, useful working environment. Not everybody can do that, so I’m happy to see the post and hope to see the list of recommendations grow!

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ok cupid’s wisdom for writers

I just read this post by Georgina Bruce, an up-and-coming writer I admire, and it made me think of this research done by the online dating service OK Cupid on “The Mathematics of Beauty.”

Bruce said this about an experience she had with a bad review of her writing:

I once read a review about one of my stories that was so scathing, so unkind, that it stopped me writing for months. It made me frightened to write anything else, scared that more scorn and bile would be poured over my creations, terrified that this person might be right. In retrospect, it’s easy to see that this critic had some kind of personal axe to grind, but at the time, I was deeply affected.

I had a similar experience, in a fiction writing workshop waaaaay back when I was an undergraduate, which was very damaging and hurtful. It stopped me in my tracks for a long time. (It is probably not a coincidence that I switched genres to poetry and have only switched back to fiction in the past five or so years.)

Typically, we get advice from other writers that haters gonna hate, and to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, etc., etc., but that’s hard to do in practice.

Enter OK Cupid and their research on beauty, hotness, and number of times you get asked out. Their findings indicate:

  • that the more men as a group disagree about a woman’s looks, the more they end up liking her
  • guys tend to ignore girls who are merely cute
  • and, in fact, having some men think she’s ugly actually works in a woman’s favor

I highly recommend reading the article, because how they reached those conclusions is fascinating, but let’s assume for the moment that this is an accurate assessment of reality.

Now for the magic: let’s replace a few key words, shall we?

  • The more critics as a group disagree about a writer’s ability, the more they end up liking her work
  • critics tend to ignore writers who are merely competent
  • and, in fact, having some critics think she’s a terrible writer actually works in a writer’s favor

This kind of boils down to the homegrown wisdom that if you aren’t pissing off a few people, you probably aren’t doing your job as a writer. This may be especially true in speculative fiction, where so many people arrive with so many different expectations of the genre.

What do you think?

 

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veterans day writer’s bookshelf: haunted by combat

Nov 11 2011 Published by under book review, life

Here’ s a book I’ve been reading for background research that I can recommend much more broadly: Haunted by Combat: Understanding PTSD in War Veterans by Daryl Paulson and Stanley Krippner. Paulson is a combat veteran of the Vietnam war who later earned a Ph.D in psychology, and a psychology professor.

I picked up the book because I was looking for an accessible nonfiction book that described not just the clinical DSM-IV criteria of post-traumatic stress disorder, but what the experience of PTSD is really like for combat veterans — and how the experience of veterans of Iraq and Afghanistan might differ from those who fought in previous wars. Paulson and Krippner deliver on that, and also explain, in lay terms, the treatment options. They are also quite candid about what treatment vets are likely to get (i.e., the emphasis is on medication because it’s cheaper to provide than other treatments that are as helpful or more helpful; the focus on managing symptoms rather than healing, again largely because of cost factors).

Last month President Obama announced that nearly all U.S. troops would leave Iraq by the end of this year, nearly 40,000 soldiers at this point (100,000 have already been withdrawn).

All of them (as well as the vets who have already come back from Iraq and Afghanistan, as well as those still in active duty) are going to come home changed. A substantial number of them are going to come home dealing with PTSD, struggling to do things most of us take for granted, like walking into a crowded grocery store in the middle of the day and making a purchase, or driving down a busy street, or going out to dinner with friends. They will have trouble maintaining close relationship, trouble sleeping, maybe trouble concentrating. They may self-medicate with alcohol or drugs  (and if they’re caught abusing drugs, this gives the government an excuse to deny them benefits and treatment).

Chances are you know someone who has been affected by combat, as a family member, coworker, student, or friend. That’s why you should read this book.

But I’m just scratching the surface here. Read the book, ask your local library to carry it (that’s where i found it), and thank the veterans you know for their service.

Thank you to my friends and family who served in the military, including: Uncle Allen, Uncle Dick, Eileen, Ryan, Lissa, and Keith.

The image is from the poster gallery at the Department of Veterans Affairs (www.va.gov/opa/vetsday).

 

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library school

Mar 01 2011 Published by under general, libraries, life, Uncategorized

A snippet of what I’ve been up to lately (besides finishing the Bronze Age fantasy novel, and looking for a new apartment for fall, etc. etc. etc.): library science grad school. I wrote this as part of a larger discussion about whether information was a commodity or a right; here’s my answer:

I think of information as being like water — freely available (and this last winter more freely available, in the form of snow, than we really wanted it to be), but if you want to do useful things with it on a large scale and/or in a organized or refined state (channel it into hydroelectric dams; get it sanitized, filtered and steaming hot from a tap in your house), you are going to have to pay something for the privilege. There are even boutique applications, like water sold in individual bottles, which is the most expensive way to buy (but sometimes the most convenient).

Some water providers, such as most municipalities, provide water collecting, treatment and distribution services at cost to their communities, while private companies sell it (or access to it) for a profit. Water rights involving rivers and lakes are monitored, negotiated, paid for and often argued over.

So, taking an example nearly at random: census data. If you want to know the makeup of your community, nothing is stopping you from going door-to-door and asking your neighbors how many of them there are, how old they are, etc. Like collecting dew from the grass, this information is lying around for you to pick up, but it is likely to be difficult to gather in any quantity.

The U.S. Census, like a municipal water source, does the gathering, filtering, treatment of that information, and delivers it to citizens via public pipes (the GAO, government web sites).

Private companies can then take that information and process it further, using it to make business decisions (not unlike a factory using water in its production processes), or adding other information, analyzing and reselling it (like those bottled water companies).

Water is a commodity, but it’s also a right, and it obviously wants to be free — it evaporates right out of any open container, and falls wherever it wants to. One thing it doesn’t do, along the lines of Barlow’s taxonomy, is propagate. We can create more out of hydrogen and oxygen at great expense, but really, we pretty much have the amount we’re going to have. Information on the other hand, is easy to propagate, and more is created all the time. (Water also is not perishable, like information is.)

The big difference, of course, is that information is not homogeneous like water is; a sonnet by Shakespeare, a recipe for cupcakes, and a visual depiction of the structure of the caffeine molecule are not put to the same uses, not good for the same things. In that respect, information is never going to be a commodity like corn or wheat — or water. But the water metaphor is still useful in thinking about information control, flow, propagation/distribution, and related issues.

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back at it after an unplanned hiatus

Jun 24 2010 Published by under general, life

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OK, I’m back! Real life has intruded on my blogging quite a bit this spring, some of which I want to write about in some posts soon. My partner and I have been taking care of her 88-year-old Grandma Ruth, who had been ill for a long time with stage 3 breast cancer and passed away earlier this month. That whole has been a struggle for all of us, but I am ultimately grateful I had the opportunity to know her and have her become part of our family. Continue Reading »

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